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Lisa Vermillion
Lisa Vermillion is President and co-owner of Get Fit Bee Fit and Thin and Healthy Weight Management. Lisa opened Get Fit- 4 years ago in Valley Center, after receiving certifications thorough the American Council on Exercise as a Weight and Lifestyle Management Consultant and Certified Personal Trainer. In January, she Grand Opened Thin and Healthy Weight Management in the same location. Lisa not only provides weight loss programs for individuals but she also implements business wellness programs for small businesses and large corporations. Additionally, Lisa is a Certified Life Coach providing guidance for individuals in the areas of career, relationship and personal development. She is available for speaking engagements in the areas of Physical Fitness, Weight Management, or any Life Coaching area (goal setting, positive attitude, sales, etc). Lisa can be reached for questions or speaking engagements by phone (316) 755-1115 or email at mvmillion@yahoo.com
Diet & Nutrition
2008-02-01 10:12:00
Dealing with a “Negative Ned” or “Nelly”
Some people at work complain all the time. I like to think I’m a positive person; however, I find my spirit sinking when I’m around these people day in and day out. Besides that, when I’m stressed out a big dish of ice cream stymies my stress. Short of changing jobs, what can I do?
Answer: It’s true that hanging with negative people on a consistent basis can bring you down. As you know, you can’t really control other people. You can, however, choose how you see the people around you. When you come across a person with a poor outlook you can take three positive steps; attempt to see where another person is coming from, focus on the positive in the other person, and take a genuine interest in the person. You’ll find these steps help create an atmosphere of positive energy which may facilitate a change in Negative Ned or Nelly. First, attempt to see where the other person is coming from. For example, brainstorm reasons Mr. Negative may be stuck in perpetual muck. He may be stressed out physically, financially, or emotionally. He may feel stuck in a rut personally or professionally. A person who does not see meaning in their work, who just moves through the day without purpose, usually demonstrates poor attitude at work. A person who complains without finding solutions typically fears change and finds it easier to stay “stuck” so to speak. Seeking to understand what’s behind a negative attitude can motivate you to take the next step. The next step is to focus on the positive points in the person. We know that you get what you focus on. If you focus on negative, you’ll get more negative. Likewise, when you focus on positive you get more positive. A great exercise is to list as many positive things as you possibly can about the person. Is he a sharp dresser? Is her hair styled nice? Does he have a great smile? Does she contribute good ideas? You may have to look very hard to come up with something, but it’s essential. Look at the list on a daily basis and strive to compliment them when you see that characteristic displayed. You’ll find a kind compliment can redirect another person’s attitude. Finally, take a genuine interest in the person. Everyone wants to feel important. Ask engaging questions then listen intently, consciously blocking out distractions. Make eye contact and smile. Look for ways to make their day a little brighter. While these gestures may seem simple, the rewards for taking a few minutes to make another person’s day by taking a genuine interest in them, focusing on their positive traits, and taking time to discover what makes them tick, are huge. Not only will you see changes in their attitude, you will also find your outlook improves as well, and you’ll find you wont need that big dish of ice cream to de-stress.
 
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