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Jacqueline Brandwynne started her Very Private® Q&A advice column to help people make their relationships happier and more intimate. The column focuses on dating, relationships, and intimate health. Jacqui also developed doctor recommended Daily Feminine Body Care products for women. For a free sample of the Very Private® Intimate Moisture product call (888) 837-9774. Mail a question to Jacqui: PO Box 491341, Los Angeles, CA 90049, or e-mail: info@veryprivate.com. For intimacy advice and to listen to Jacqui's radio show every Wednesdays visit www.veryprivate.com
Relationships
2009-12-01 10:17:00
Why don’t men listen?
Question: A reader writes. “Most time my husband and I see eye to eye except when getting into our car driving to a destination unknown to either of us. I’m trying hard to read street names in the dark. However, Gordon keeps zipping around corners obviously ignoring the directions I read out loud to him. By now we’re half an hour late and, once again, clearly lost. “Please stop,” I plead. “Let’s ask for directions.” His answer is expected and definitive. “I know exactly where we are!” So we continue to drive around in strange neighborhoods to no avail, tension mounting till a nasty argument erupts. Why can’t men listen?”
Answer: Avoiding asking for directions seems to be a well documented male thing. Guys don’t like to admit that they don’t know where they are going. They don’t like having their authority questioned. It makes them feel belittled. Somehow they have this notion that they were born with an extra male gene that will always guide them to where they want to go. Good news! This male versus female dilemma can now be solved; simply get your guy a GPS system this Christmas. I surprised my gadget loving significant other with a little genie called the Nuvi 755T, made by the Garmin Company. We took Nuvi to Europe, installed it in our rental car and criss-crossed Sicily without any glitches or arguments. Nuvi, connected to a satellite, found even the most remote little sites and restaurants we had on our list. Even I, a total non-techie, have learned to program the Nuvi. Software for any country is available in multiple languages in stores or on the internet. Best of all, car arguments, unhappy efforts to find our way are past history! The next male versus female issue is of a public nature. A large number of Congressional guys, in this case Democrats, believe they know what’s best for women in terms of health care choices. They couldn’t be more wrong. A recent poll, commissioned by the Independent Women’s Forum (IWF), among all parties, including independents, may actually drive women to turn their backs on the Democrats come voting time. Women want no part of the health care bills that the Dems are pushing down their throats. By an overwhelming margin women strongly prefer their own care. Three out of four women, (74%), rate their own health plans as good or excellent. 77% believe that their own care is as good as or better than what others have. 64% of them like their private insurance which they rate good or excellent and object to government run health plans. An overwhelming 81% believe that any public option will cause a decline in the quality of care and an increase in taxes that their family will have to pay, which the Federal Office of Management and Budget confirms. They also feel that the government charging a penalty to those who don’t choose to buy in, is unfair. They are strongly against the passage of a bill that will increase the Federal deficit for future generations. Females make up 50% of the workforce and the electorate. They earn their own money and insist on the right to spend it for insurance they want and not what Congress thinks is best for them. Yet the Dems and their leader in the White House don’t seem to care. With 2010 approaching, it’s high time that males listen to what women want or face the consequences.
 
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