 | Michelle Gaborie LPN has been the Administrator for 5 years at Carrington Place and was previously the DON for 3.5 years. She has also been an LPN since 1992. For more information please contact Carrington Place 1909 E 4th St., Pittsburg, KS 66762, phone: 620-235-1212 |
Health & Wellness
2012-08-02 10:29:26
How can I encourage my father?
Q- After much family turmoil, we have to place my very independent father in an assisted living facility for his own safety and well-being. The news has crushed him and caused him to loose all confidence in his abilities. How can we inspire him to live life to the fullest and trust what he CAN do?
A- First, choose a facility that encourages residents to participate in activities. Speak to the activities director and ask what kinds of recreational activities they offer on a daily basis. Look for a place where the activities are numerous and varied. This will give your father choices and let him know he still has the power to choose what he does, and when.
Next, make sure the assisted living facility works hard at keeping residents as active as possible. Since your father is feeling discouraged about his abilities, he may be reluctant to try anything, even simple tasks. I encourage you to find a facility that encourages residents to do as much as they can safely do but offer real help when needed. For example, your father may need help getting dressed but can get to the dining room without aid.
The transition to assisted living can be difficult for those who have always lived a very independent life that is understandable. However, once he is around others he will find that he is not alone and there is no loss of pride. Be sure to let the staff know that there is a problem in this area so that they can make a special effort in finding ways for him to add usefulness.
Finally, he needs to know that this can be a step in improving his functions. Facilities that offer physical therapy can be a huge benefit in helping residents strengthen and regain some mobility. Being around a social group can help improve mood, increase mental stimulation, and encourage mobility, which in turn inspires trust in our abilities.
Best of luck to you all.
