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Mickey De Hook
Mickey H. DeHook is a 30 year, nationally recognized, law enforcement veteran and trainer. He was born and raised in Toledo, Ohio. He is also a police consultant and expert witness on liability issue lawsuits filed against law enforcement agencies. He has received numerous state and national awards in traffic safety and criminal investigations. Mickey has appeared on radio and television and lectured throughout the United States on the issues of domestic violence, rape and sexual abuse, child abuse, self-defense for women, and traffic safety. Mickey also has a program called "On The Line...You Make The Call," for college student-athletes. It's an interactive program designed to make the student-athlete aware of the temptations and resulting choices he or she may be faced with in his or her daily life. You can contact Mickey at (620) 327-2222, or e-mail: mdehook@kscable.com
Safety
2002-05-01 08:53:00
Representing yourself
:  I am a victim of an abusive husband.  I have little money.  Having been on the debate team in high school, I have decided to 'go it alone' in court.  I heard about list of recommendations for such a situation but have been unable to find it.  Can you help?
Question:  I am a victim of an abusive husband.  I have little money.  Having been on the debate team in high school, I have decided to 'go it alone' in court.  I heard about list of recommendations for such a situation but have been unable to find it.  Can you help?Answer:  Whenever you go to court, it's important to keep your emotions in check. The bottom line is that, if you can't testify coherently, the judge won't be able to rule in your favor. Most judges don't respond well to tears, jealousy or anger despite the fact that you may at times feel overwhelmed by such emotions. Do your best to stay calm and state the facts slowly and clearly. If possible, take some time to prepare before you go to court. Write out what you want to say in brief words  using subject headings so you'll remember what's most important. You may even want to practice your statement in front of a trusted friend. The following suggestions may sound simplistic, but when you're facing a judge, they may make the difference between a successful verdict and dashed hopes.Dress as if you were going to a job interview. If this isn't an option for you, just be as neat and well groomed as possible. Don't ever interrupt the judge while she is speaking. This is the golden rule. No matter what she's saying, wait until she's through. Interrupting or arguing is a surefire way to prejudice that judge against you. When she's finished, you should politely ask permission to speak. Don't interrupt the opposing party. No matter what verbal concoction your opponent is spewing, he or she has the right to speak freely. Know that you will get your chance to explain or deny what's been said. Don't make faces of disgust or shake your head in disbelief during the proceedings. Also, try not to jump up and down if the judge decides in your favor. Very rarely does the decision rendered please everyone. It's best to adopt a professional demeanor and save the anger or celebration for private moments.
 
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